You can either grab the person by the hair and bulldoze your righteous opinions all over them or you can try the following method.
In my line of work, I deal with people with varying degree of risk appetite and level of acceptance. Often times it can be frustrating to deal with them when "the situation is so simple". Not everyone is blessed to see things as simple as you or me. What's simple to us could be a life threatening ordeal for another.
How do we handle someone who can't see it our way?
Here are a few things you DON'T do to aggravate the matter.
This is what you can do:
Well, that's today's Alpha Mind tip on how to be a better leader/boss/friend/co-worker. You can also join me on my Alpha Mind 30-Day Challenge here or check out my other thoughts on life and living here on my Facebook page.
Leave me a comment and let me know if this tip worked out for you.
Update: (This one is for Natalie Trog who left me a comment on Facebook asking about dealing with impossible in-laws)
So you have tried the more diplomatic approach, you have tried the Alpha Mind approach, and everything seem to just fall flat with the person you're dealing with. In fact, said person is abrasive and antagonistic, and every time you have to deal with them, you get shot through with a bolt of blue. The person is effing impossible to deal with.
You cannot win every fight, and not every mother's son and daughter are open to compromise. In fact, they may see your soft approach as a weakness and capitalise on it. For people like that, I say fuck-it and walk away. Some fights are not worth it.
Read an article somewhere a long time back about the secret of happiness. It stated that the way to being happy is to have empathy. In my ego centric younger days I couldn't fully appreciate the wisdom in that. In my 30s now, and less hot headed, I find myself listening more and placing less emphasis on my own opinions on what is "right".
Recently I learned that instead of hammering my opinions into other people's mind-set, I'm able to remove myself from my own ego and see things from their perspective. And I mean really see it from their eyes, walk in their shoes, experience their pain and their joy.
It turns out, people generally aren't the assholes we made them out to be. And when you can appreciate that and see that the world isn't out to piss you off all the time, you start to see the shades instead of solid colours. You begin to feel that the world has so much depth and definition you have yet to experience. And sometimes you're fortunate not to have had to experience them.
There is a strange sense of serenity; and also a very awkward sense of humility. It made me feel young again. Like when I was in my teens and hungry to learn what society and life has to offer: the joy of discovering new emotions and sensations. All of a sudden a great burden of anguish is removed from my soul. It made me a little light headed. At peace. And I think at the end of it all, when a man finds peace, he finds happiness.
On a conscious level, we all know that the fear of failure is the barrier to success. When we aren’t the one standing on the precipice facing judgement, we have all the nerves to recite motivational quotes to get the person to take the leap of faith. Why is it that we ourselves aren’t able to practice what we preach?
That's because fear is an autonomic response; it shuts you down, takes over the reins and offers you only two options: fight or flight. Most people take flight. Fear is a prick and If it was a person, I would stab him in the face with a blunt spoon. F#%@ you, fear.
Here's my Alpha Mind philosophy of getting over fear in the most fun way possible. (Yipee!) They have been tried and tested by both teenagers and adults and the feedback I got was very encouraging. Well, let's get you started.
If you tried these techniques and they work for you or if you have any other wacky ideas you would like the share, please post it in the comments field below.